Standard EMDR vs. Attachment-Focused EMDR: Which Is Right for You?

Curious about the difference between traditional EMDR and Attachment-Focused EMDR? Learn how a more relational, somatic approach can support healing from complex trauma and early attachment wounds.

Not All EMDR Is the Same

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a powerful, evidence-based treatment for trauma. But what many people don’t know is that EMDR comes in different forms.

While standard EMDR is highly effective for single-incident traumas, those with complex trauma, developmental wounds, or relational issues often benefit more from Attachment-Focused EMDR (AF-EMDR)—a more flexible, intuitive, and relational approach.

What Is Standard EMDR?

Standard EMDR follows an 8-phase protocol developed by Francine Shapiro. It’s structured, manualized, and research-driven.

Best for:

     – Single-incident trauma (e.g., accidents, assaults)
    – Phobias or panic attacks
    – Grief and loss

Key features:

     – The therapist is more neutral and directive
    – Sessions focus on identifying and reprocessing traumatic memories
    – Best for clients who are emotionally stable and securely attached

This method works beautifully for many, but not all.

What Is Attachment-Focused EMDR?

Created by Dr. Laurel Parnell, Attachment-Focused EMDR modifies the standard model to support clients with early attachment trauma, emotional neglect, dissociation, or complex PTSD.

Best for:

     – Childhood emotional abuse or neglect
    – Developmental trauma

     – Disorganized or insecure attachment
    – Complex PTSD and dissociative symptoms

Key differences:

     – The therapist is actively emotionally present
     – Uses nurturing, protective, and wise figures to build internal safety
    – Incorporates somatic resources to regulate the nervous system
    – Adapts the pacing to each client’s tolerance and readiness
    – Emphasizes relational repair as a core part of healing

In short, AF-EMDR makes space for the therapeutic relationship to become a healing agent.

Why It Matters for Complex Trauma

If you’ve experienced:

     – Childhood abandonment
    – Emotional invalidation

     – Ongoing relational wounding

... then you may have learned to survive through disconnection—from your body, your feelings, and other people.

In these cases, trauma healing requires more than a protocol. It requires connection, attunement, and co-regulation—all of which are central to Attachment-Focused EMDR.

What the Science Says

Attachment-focused EMDR is grounded in interpersonal neurobiology and polyvagal theory. Research shows:

Healing happens through relationships that are safe, attuned, and emotionally present—not just intellectual insight or mechanical techniques.

When a therapist offers right-brain-to-right-brain attunement (Schore, 2009), the client’s brain begins to rewire itself for connection, trust, and safety. That’s what makes this approach so powerful.

Which Is Right for You?

If you’re relatively stable and looking to process a single, distressing event, standard EMDR may be a perfect fit.

But if you’ve experienced years of relational or developmental trauma, or you’ve struggled with feeling disconnected, misunderstood, or overwhelmed in other therapies, Attachment-Focused EMDR may be the deeper, safer path to healing.

How We Do It at Embodied Wellness & Recovery

At Embodied Wellness and Recovery, we specialize in:

     – Attachment-Focused EMDR
    – Somatic trauma therapy
    – Integrative healing approaches for trauma, addiction, and intimacy issues
    – EMDR intensives for those ready to go deeper in a shorter amount of time

Whether you’re located in Los Angeles or Nashville or seeking virtual support, our team of trauma-informed clinicians will meet you with compassion, skill, and respect for your unique healing journey.

You don’t have to heal alone. We’re here to walk with you, to be your “empathetic witness.”

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References

Parnell, L. (2013). Attachment-focused EMDR: Healing Relational Trauma. W. W. Norton & Company.

Porges, S. W. (2011). The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and self-regulation. W. W. Norton & Company.

Schore, A. N. (2009). Right-brain Affect Regulation: An Essential Mechanism of Development, Trauma, Dissociation, and Psychotherapy. The Neuropsychotherapist, 1(3), 1–13.

Shapiro, F. (2017). Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) Therapy: Basic Principles, Protocols, and Procedures (3rd ed.). The Guilford Press.

Siegel, D. J. (2012). The Developing Mind: How Relationships and the Brain Interact to Shape Who We Are (2nd ed.). The Guilford Press.